“What advice would you give a man that had multiple encounters and a significant connection with a woman years in the past and has never stopped thinking about her?”
This reminds me of the Reason Season Lifetime Poem: relationships are in our life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
It also reminds me of a dating profile tagline I read “we are here after billions of coincidences…,” (Bobby of SF).
We connect with another for a reason. We EACH bring something to one another’s lives at the time. However, as humans we are always changing and so are they. Relationships don’t last forever, every single relationship will end, either by choice, circumstance, or death. Relationships, just like life, are impermanent and that is one of the very reasons to appreciate every moment for what it brings.
I value and appreciate everything others have brought to my life for when they were in it. At times, it can be hard to see beyond loss or anger after a breakup, and if it wasn’t a great ending I don’t want to remind myself to appreciate them. But I have the power to think positive thoughts, or be angry, and I choose the former, for me because I don’t want to give anyone the power to influence me or my feelings
The Reason Season Poem:
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
— UNKNOWN AUTHOR